If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy—like you understand your patterns but still repeat them—it’s not because you’re resistant. It’s because some wounds live beneath words.

Especially the ones shaped by attachment trauma: the unmet needs, the fear of closeness, the people-pleasing, the avoidant shutdown, the constant push-pull of wanting connection but fearing it at the same time.

That’s where Brainspotting comes in. It helps you access and heal those deeper emotional experiences that talk therapy alone can’t always reach.

You know how to show up for others. You’re thoughtful. You anticipate. You give freely.

But when it’s your turn to speak up—to say “I need,” “I feel,” or “that doesn’t work for me”—you freeze. Or downplay. Or don’t say anything at all.

Then comes the resentment. The loneliness. The quiet wondering: “Why is this so hard for me?”

Here’s why: Because somewhere along the way, you learned that having needs wasn’t safe.

You’re the one your friends call when they’re spiraling. The listener. The advice-giver. The emotional anchor.

You rarely feel like you can fall apart. Or vent. Or just…be.

Because everyone’s used to you being the steady one.
The therapist friend. The “strong one.” The fixer. The emotional caretaker.

But here’s the thing: being that person in every circle isn’t a badge of honor. It’s a survival role. And it’s draining you.