Brainspotting for Attachment Wounds: What to Expect in Session
You don’t have to explain it all. You just have to let your body lead.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy—like you understand your patterns but still repeat them—it’s not because you’re resistant. It’s because some wounds live beneath words.
Especially the ones shaped by attachment trauma: the unmet needs, the fear of closeness, the people-pleasing, the avoidant shutdown, the constant push-pull of wanting connection but fearing it at the same time.
That’s where Brainspotting comes in. It helps you access and heal those deeper emotional experiences that talk therapy alone can’t always reach.
What Are Attachment Wounds?
Attachment wounds form when our early emotional needs for safety, consistency, and attunement weren’t met.
They may show up as:
Anxiety in relationships or fear of abandonment
Avoidance, shutdown, or emotional detachment
Hyper-independence or chronic people-pleasing
Feeling “too much” or “never enough”
Difficulty trusting, receiving, or expressing needs
These patterns are often deeply somatic. Your nervous system learned to adapt—by disconnecting, over-giving, or staying guarded.
Why Brainspotting Works for Attachment Trauma
Brainspotting helps you access the felt experience of these wounds—the body memories and emotional imprints that formed before you had words to explain them.
It works by identifying a “brainspot”—an eye position linked to stored emotional or somatic activation. From there, your body leads the way while your brain processes unresolved material beneath your conscious awareness.
It’s not about storytelling—it’s about releasing.
What to Expect in a Brainspotting Session
Each session is gentle, client-led, and trauma-sensitive. Here’s what the process may include:
Set an Intention
We start with a theme—like a relational trigger, emotional block, or belief (“I always have to earn love”).Find Your Brainspot
Using a pointer or following your natural gaze, we identify the eye position that activates your body’s response.Let the Processing Begin
With bilateral music playing (optional), you’ll simply notice what comes up: sensations, emotions, memories, even silence. There’s no pressure to speak or “make sense” of it.Stay Present—At Your Pace
You’re fully in control. I hold space, track your process, and help you stay regulated.Integration
We gently close the session by checking in, grounding, and noting any shifts that occurred.
Common Experiences After Sessions
Feeling lighter or more emotionally clear
Vivid dreams or emotional release
Subtle (or big) shifts in how you relate to others
A sense that something moved—even if you can’t explain how
Healing doesn’t always come with a big “aha.” Sometimes, it’s the quiet release of something you didn’t realize you were still holding.
Why This Matters for Women of Color with Attachment Wounds
If you were raised in environments where emotional safety wasn’t modeled, or where your identity complicated how you were held, seen, or supported—your attachment adaptations run deep.
Brainspotting honors that. It doesn’t force you to talk through culture, language, or shame. It lets your body speak, release, and rebuild trust from within.
You Deserve More Than Insight—You Deserve Integration
I support emotionally aware, high-achieving women of color who are ready to heal attachment wounds without overexplaining or overperforming.
Let’s explore Brainspotting together
Begin healing your relationship with connection—starting with yourself
You don’t have to carry old relational pain forever. Your body already knows how to let it go.
